What strategies work for a whining child (or family – or spouse!)?

Proverbs 16.32 He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty,
And he who rules his spirit, than he who captures a city.

If you discipline consistently and in an instructive manner you should be done spanking by the time a child is 4 or 5. We rarely spanked after this age – and if it was needed We NEVER recommend spanking for kids over 10 – there are plenty of things to take away at that age for bad behavior. The goal of all discipline is for our kids to learn to “rule their own spirit.” We actually are being merciful by disciplining and even spanking. No-one likes a brat – and if you take one out in public or send one to school – THEY (your child) will be the one who pays for your lack of self-control as a parent.